Discover Jo Self http://joself.consulting Strengths Driven Branding and Conscious Business Development Mon, 04 May 2020 18:14:55 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.5.3 http://joself.consulting/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/cropped-Site-Icon2-32x32.jpg Discover Jo Self http://joself.consulting 32 32 Screw Self-Reflection http://joself.consulting/screw-self-reflection/ http://joself.consulting/screw-self-reflection/#respond Fri, 03 Apr 2020 22:17:57 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=125134 The post Screw Self-Reflection appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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Ok, that might sound a bit harsh (and not entirely true), but honestly, I find Self-Reflection painful and difficult. I mean, how can you reflect on your blind spots? If you know Johari’s Window, our blind spots are the “I don’t know what I don’t know” box. If you don’t know it, then our blind spots are the things we just can’t see about ourselves with any clarity – it often takes an outside perspective.

So, hear me out.

I believe self-reflection is incredibly helpful, but only if we have some basic information to start. For me, that information comes from Strengths – CliftonStrengths©. All too often our biggest blind spots aren’t the fears or the negative aspects of ourselves. We usually see those quite well. What we tend to miss is what is amazing about us.

How we shine.

How we are better at something than those around us.

How we can achieve excellence by doing something that actually comes easily to us.

We’re human. And society has created a belief that we need to focus on our weaknesses to become better. Frankly, that’s just not so. Our best chance for excellence comes from doing what we naturally do best – and most of us don’t really know what that is. Heck, I’ve been in the Strengths world since 2003 and I’m still figuring out. However, the more time I do what I most enjoy and do well, the clearer my true path becomes.

I believe we are all given a divine purpose or path and it is imperative to nurture this path. I’m not a traditionally religious person, but I do have Connectedness® and I believe in the beautiful mystery and intelligence of the Universe – that’s my “divine”. I also believe that the answer to why we are the way we are and why we are here are also wrapped up beautifully in our talents.

“I finally feel like I have permission to be me”. This is the phrase – or some variation of it – that I hear most often at the end of my online course, The Language of You. From this, I have learned two very valuable lessons:

  1. Confidence is not the problem; it is merely a symptom of a lack of self-awareness

Most people I have worked with would likely say they are pretty self-confident – and even pretty self-aware, but something is missing. They can’t quite put their finger on it, but they know they could be living or working in a better, more satisfying way.

Which leads us to lesson number two…

  1. Most of us are holding ourselves back somewhere or somehow.

We do this because there’s a piece of us that is afraid of being judged, or being seen, or we just honestly don’t value the power in that part we’re holding back. Somewhere along the way we’ve been told (or understood) that there’s something wrong with that part of us.

If I were to sit with these people and just ask them questions about what’s being held back (or holding them back), they may never figure it out. The powerful language embedded in their talents combined with their values, motivations and what they most enjoy doing creates an undeniable fabric of who they are and their greatest value and opportunities to contribute to this world.

No more holding back!

I’m sure my thoughts on self-reflection come from my own talents: Strategic, Activator, Maximizer, Communication and Ideation. I’ve never been one to look back, ponder why and dig deep. I prefer to acknowledge the pain and find a way to move forward in a productive way. I want a plan. I don’t want to endlessly ruminate on my feelings about it. Maybe that’s just me. Or maybe it’s you, too?

And please understand, I’m not at all discounting inner work. I’m not missing the value of reflecting on our inner motivations or struggles. I’m not shrugging off the power of understanding why things may have gone the way they’ve gone. I’m merely suggesting that we can make that inner work so much easier by understanding some elemental truths about ourselves, truths that are easily revealed through our talents. I think we make it too hard on ourselves and it doesn’t have to be that hard.

I want to help kick start you in moving forward with your plans, your big dreams, your amazing vision by creating a solid foundation from which to launch yourself. A foundation that will guarantee a higher rate of success and sustainability.

If you’re even a little bit curious about how, let’s have a conversation. I deeply desire building a community who believes things can be better and sees a future of possibility before them.

I look forward to connecting.

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Peru’s only Gallup Certified Strengths Coach and President of Conscious Business Journey Peru. I am on a mission to Raise a Strengths-Based Generation by teaching Strengths as a Second-Language. I seek to create a world where everyone can live to their full potential, talents aren’t wasted and happiness is contagious. As a single mompreneur and expat living in Peru, I understand the challenges and rewards that both entail. When I’m not helping others create extraordinary lives, I can be found at the sewing machine, at the movies, enjoying a glass of wine with friends or horsing around with my terribly precocious little boy, affectionately known as O.

Questions?

No worries, email me and I’m happy to satisfy your curiosity and questions!

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Practical Strengths Sample Themes http://joself.consulting/practical-strengths-sample/ http://joself.consulting/practical-strengths-sample/#respond Tue, 31 Dec 2019 19:03:38 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120163 The post Practical Strengths Sample Themes appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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My future book, Practical Strengths, is currently being written. My goal is to include the CliftonStrengths® and how they show up in everyday life to serve us at our best. Below are a few samples (aside from the parenting category) as a preview of what’s to come. I hope you enjoy.

You can be a funding supporter of this dream endeavor.
Want to know how? Please check this out.

The ARRANGER® in Health & Fitness

“Fitting good health and fitness practices into an already busy schedule might seem daunting for some, but you manage it with ease as well-being is just one more piece in your puzzle and the challenge motivates you.”

So many of us might use the excuse of too little time as a reason not to include a healthy lifestyle into our routine. For you, it’s just one of the important balls you must juggle which contribute to a life of well-being. Creating meal plans, organizing your schedule to fit in a workout, finding creative ways to include healthy activities into your calendar doesn’t feel like just another “to-do” to add to your list. It’s an integral part of having a well-integrated work/life pace. You likely even help others find time to include these all important tasks into their schedule as well. And you don’t feel the need to do it all at once. Most likely, you start with one item – like creating a healthy meal plan – and once that’s running like a well-oiled machine you’ll plug in the next healthy habit. It’s not about doing it all for you but doing what fits and what makes sense at the time.

The MAXIMIZER® Partner

“You easily see what is best in your partners or those around you. You also recognize that we are always growing and that what is best about them will evolve over time and you not only encourage that growth, you enjoy seeing them reach excellence in their space.”

You easily recognize your partner’s potential and you are there to support them as they develop their unique strengths. Since you can actually “see” their potential, you are able to mirror this for them until they recognize it for themselves. Remember, this needs to be done at their pace, and not yours, as they may have more difficulty seeing what you see. You also have a knack for helping on projects around the house, knowing just where to invest time, money and energy so the return on investment is optimal. You will likely research processes and possibilities so that you never start from scratch; preferring to improve upon something that already exists. Your partner can count on you to make the most of your combined resources.

The DEVELOPER® in Faith & Spirituality

“Our spiritual development is consistent, from youth to maturity and you, above many others, enjoy accompanying someone along their own path to spiritual awareness, celebrating each step in their awakening.”

Your enjoyment of watching someone grow and change is clearly evident as you join them on their spiritual path. You listen, you answer questions and you recognize that each person’s journey comes at its own pace and with its own challenges. You are patient as you guide them through the doubts that arise and are with them to face each hurdle as they come to it. You are a steady hand in their journey and celebrate each milestone and they grow into their spiritual awakening. While others might get frustrated when the journey is slow, you remember that the timing and “rightness” for each person looks different. Remember this, so that you can also remember that not everyone is ready for the next step when you are. We all have our own pace for growth. Allow space for personal reflection and be there for them when they are ready to find their way forward again.

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CliftonStrengths Talent Detangler http://joself.consulting/cliftonstrengths-talent-detangler/ http://joself.consulting/cliftonstrengths-talent-detangler/#respond Tue, 31 Dec 2019 16:31:25 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120132 The post CliftonStrengths Talent Detangler appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The  CliftonStrengths© Talent Detangler

Have you been wondering what in the world the Talent Detangler is? Well, here’s your answer in a 5 min video. That’s all it takes!

You can hear Amy describer her talent of Individualization for the first 4 minutes.  If you want to skip to the result, you can move ahead to min 4:00. If you’d like to schedule your own CliftonStrengths Detangler, visit http://calendly.com/joself/talent-detangler

How was the Talent Detangler born?

I was talking with Donna Gardner a few months back, interviewing her for the Talent Spotlight on my 1-minute podcast, Strong Communities (also available on iTunes). I asked three simple questions to get a soundbites in order to write my piece. At the end of the interview, I read back what I’ve written for approval before publishing.

“How do you DO that?” exclaimed Donna.

My sincere response was, I just wrote down what you said. And she replied that no, I had made it sound better somehow.

And then I got to thinking just how many times I’ve heard a comment like that or similar.

It’s like you know what’s in my brain!
You listen in a way that helps me hear what I’m saying.
Can you send me what you just wrote? It’s perfect.
It would have taken me months to get that down – you did it in minutes!

So, there you have it. I’m pretty darn good at getting words on paper that you are having trouble getting out on your own. I have really never noticed this, or rather, I’ve discounted the power of it, because to me, it’s easy. And isn’t this what we often deny in ourselves? If it’s easy for me, it must not be valuable – or maybe we think everyone else can do it, too.

The Talent Detangler, a 60-min session for just $99.
I will interview you, write down what I hear, plus send you the recording and my write up within 24 hours.

How can you use this?

  • Understand and appreciate your Top 5 talents more profoundly
    • Love who you are
    • Use it for your resume
    • Use it for interviews and performance reviews
    • Use it to learn who and how you best serve
    • Enhance your profile (LinkedIn, Soar, FB, wherever)
    • Create a stonger bio

Trust me, I have my own detanglers. Surgeons can’t operate on themselves either. And this is especially powerful for all those verbal processors out there.

Book your space now with the button below and I’m looking forward to working with you!

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The Includer Parent http://joself.consulting/the-includer-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-includer-parent/#respond Fri, 20 Dec 2019 17:41:42 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120115 The post The Includer Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The Includer® ParentIncluder, Parenting, Strengths

You create a strong family unit where everyone is valued and feels like they belong. You are most likely to be the house where friends gather because of your welcoming nature.

Do you have INCLUDER?

Celebrate:

  • You’re a natural team builder
  • Making others feel at ease, especially new people
  • Your acceptance of others as they are
  • You fight for the underdog

Evaluate:

  • Am I being indecisive?
  • Am I avoiding confrontation?
  • Am I including the right people for the task at hand?
  • Am I being overly generous?

Your home is where everyone likes to gather. People love being around you as you make everyone feel welcome. When your own child is feeling left out, you find ways to help them feel included. You might invite other friends over to play. Or perhaps you discover a new park or place to go where your child has the chance to make new friends..  It’s likely you make chores more fun around the house as well. Letting each person choose the job they most prefer and everyone pitching in in their own wayBe careful about inviting all the kids over for a visit though. There may be a reason your child isn’t interested in hanging out with certain people. It’s best to let your child lead the way, while also modeling tolerance and acceptance of others. They’ll appreciate the diversity amongst their peers by following your lead.

Does this sound like you?

How does Includer show up for you at home? I’d love to hear your story.

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The Self-Assurance Parent http://joself.consulting/the-self-assurance-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-self-assurance-parent/#respond Tue, 17 Dec 2019 14:53:48 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120102 The post The Self-Assurance Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The Self-Assurance® ParentSelf-Assurance, Parenting, Strengths

The confidence you have in yourself translates to having confidence in your children, which helps them see themselves as valued and loved. You demonstrate that trusting in your own abilities includes listening to the opinions and thoughts of others.

Do you have SELF-ASSURANCE?

Celebrate:

  • Your internal confidence
  • You provide reassurance when others are in doubt
  • Your steadiness in rocky situations
  • You instill confidence in others

Evaluate:

  • Am I being dismissive of the opinions of others?
  • Am I being stubborn?
  • Am I being too authoritative?
  • Am I impatient with others’ insecurities?

Children test their boundaries to establish their independence. Fortunately for them, you understand their desire to find their own way. You allow them the opportunities to discover their own inner compass and to make their own decisions. This doesn’t mean that you don’t set boundaries of your own for them. Yet, you are very proactive in discussing the consequences of their actions and decisions. You know they need to learn from their own mistakes, and you give them the space to do so. Of course, if things don’t go according to plan, you are there to support and comfort them. Your strength of character also sets a good example and means your children are less likely to fall to peer pressure. They are aware of what’s important to them and use their best judgment when temptation presents itself. By trusting their instincts, you inspire them to have confidence in themselves and to trust their inner voice.

Does this sound like you?

How does Self-Assurance show up for you at home? I’d love to hear your story.

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The Discipline Parent http://joself.consulting/the-discipline-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-discipline-parent/#respond Sun, 15 Dec 2019 20:07:33 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120095 The post The Discipline Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The DISCIPLINE® ParentDIscipline, Parenting, Strengths

“The structure and routine you provide for your child reduces anxiety and stress. This is especially relevant relating to new experiences. You also recognize that your child may have their own systems. You help them refine, discovering what works best for them.”

Do you have DISCIPLINE?

Celebrate:

  • You can break down big tasks
  • Your ease with efficiency
  • Your attention to detail
  • Your ability to maintain a routine or schedule

Evaluate:

  • Am I too rigid with others?
  • Am I willing to be flexible when necessary?
  • Am I too hard on others with their inattention to detail?
  • Am I unwilling to change?

Children need routine and boundaries. You are naturally gifted to do this. Your children know how to tackle the big tasks because you break them down into easy, manageable steps. You consistently model how to work smarter, not harder; this helps them immensely in school and in life. While not every child may easily fall into a routine, the limits you set help them feel safe. Be mindful that what organized looks like to you, might look very different for them. Respecting their way of creating routine and organization allows them to express themselves in the way they feel most comfortable. Also, remember that often the outcome is more important than the “how”. Step back and ensure that your child is able to grow by thinking through the process for themselves. This will give them higher confidence in their abilities for the future.

Does this sound like you?

How does Discipline show up for you at home? I’d love to hear your story.

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The Maximizer Parent http://joself.consulting/the-maximizer-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-maximizer-parent/#respond Wed, 04 Dec 2019 14:45:00 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120084 The post The Maximizer Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The Maximizer® ParentMaximizer, Parenting, Strengths

“You easily recognize the true potential of each family member and support them to be their best. Remember to allow them to develop at their pace. While you can see their potential, they may need time and reassurance to see it themselves.”

Are you a MAXIMIZER?

Celebrate:

  • Your dedication to excellence
  • Preferring quality over quantity
  • Your focus on strengths
  • Your motivational manner

Evaluate:

  • Am I being a perfectionist?
  • Is the outcome realistic?
  • Are my expectations too high?
  • Am I mirroring excellence or only demanding it?

You easily recognize each family member’s potential and you are there to support them as they develop their unique strengths. Mirror this for them until they recognize it for themselves. Remember, this needs to be done at their pace, and not yours. They may have more difficulty seeing what you see. You also show your children how to work smarter, not harder. You help them explore the use of time, energy or costs to achieve what they want. This ensures a valuable return on that investment. You lean toward excellence. You have a deep desire to see your child develop to the best of their ability. For both reasons, you are a natural coach for your children, guiding them each step of the way.

Does this sound like you?

How does Maximizer show up for you at home? I’d love to hear your story.

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The Deliberative Parent http://joself.consulting/the-deliberative-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-deliberative-parent/#respond Tue, 03 Dec 2019 16:16:57 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120072 The post The Deliberative Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The Deliberative® ParentDeliberative, Parenting, Strengths

“Your ability to see obstacles paired with your cautious approach teaches your child to evaluate risks thoroughly. Your thoughtful actions translate into a caring and loving sense of protection for them.”

Do you have DELIBERATIVE?

Celebrate:

  • You are vigilant
  • You see situations from multiple points of view
  • You are conscientious
  • You measure risk carefully and move forward accordingly

Evaluate:

  • Am I too afraid of being wrong?
  • Am I playing Devil’s Advocate just to be contrary?
  • Am I holding others back with my cautiousness?
  • Am I unwilling to trust decisions to others?

You are a model guardian for your children. You help them navigate their decision making by understanding the consequences of each action taken. While you can certainly help them see all the potential risks, you can also help them see the rewards. You also understand that some lessons must be learned on their own. This can be painful for you; no one likes to see their children hurt or suffer. However, you steadfastly stand by their side and catch them when they fall. Once the dust has settled, you explore options together to see how they might be more successful next time. Your family knows that your consideration of every detail is one of the ways you protect them and love them. They trust that you have their best intentions at heart and proceed accordingly knowing fully what lies ahead.

Does this sound like you?

How does Deliberative show up for you at home? I’d love to hear your story.

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The Ideation Parent http://joself.consulting/the-ideation-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-ideation-parent/#respond Mon, 02 Dec 2019 13:41:45 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120063 The post The Ideation Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The Ideation® Parent

“Boredom won’t last long in your house with your endless ways of creating fun and learning for your children – from what they play to what they eat. They love that they can bounce ideas off you and their imagination is valued.”

Do you have IDEATION?

Celebrate:

  • Your love of brainstorming
  • Making connections others may overlook
  • Your ability to innovate
  • Asking “why not?” instead of “why?”

Evaluate:

  • Are my ideas actionable?
  • Do I change direction too fast?
  • Am I delaying the end goal?
  • Am I communicating my ideas effectively?

You have an energy about you which is passionate and creative. Ideas flow from you with ease and this means it would be challenging to be bored in your house. Your kids will love that you are always finding new ways to teach them and play with them. You aren’t afraid of doing things your way or a new way and that flexibility inspires creativity in the rest of the family. You see connections that others may overlook – where some only see dots with numbers on them, you see the bunny rabbit without even drawing a line. It’s almost intuitive. And seeing these connections can help your children solve problems, come up with creative solutions, and even see a cause and effect they hadn’t considered when thinking through the consequence of past and future actions.

Does this sound like you?

How does Ideation support your parenting style?

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The Competition Parent http://joself.consulting/the-competition-parent/ http://joself.consulting/the-competition-parent/#respond Sat, 30 Nov 2019 14:35:46 +0000 https://joself.consulting/?p=120049 The post The Competition Parent appeared first on Discover Jo Self.

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The Competition® ParentCompetition, Parenting, Strengths

You love to measure yourself against others to consistently improve. You model this for your child in a healthy way, showing them that we are all excellent at something. You also guide them to be both good winners and gracious losers.

Do you have COMPETITION?

Celebrate:

  • You embody the spirit of winning
  • Winning together is just as important
  • Your drive and tenacity that inspires
  • You know where to set the bar

Evaluate:

  • Am I being a sore loser?
  • Is MY win becoming more important than OUR win?
  • Am I setting the bar too high?
  • Am I praising the effort, even if the outcome isn’t as hoped?

There’s no team more important than family. You know that when one of you wins, you all win. But life isn’t just about winning. You demonstrate to your child that persistence – and even small improvements – are just as valuable. They see your drive in everything you do. This inspires them to be passionate about their goals as well. Your determination is a great example for them. You also model being both a gracious loser and winner. Be sure to set the bars appropriately for your child’s abilities and push gently as they will improve at their own pace. And remember, even the smallest win deserves a celebration. It will motivate them to keep up the great work!

Does this sound like you?

How does Competition show up for you at home? I’d love to hear your story.

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